Meekness is not weakness, it's tremendous strength under control.

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9

The truest leader is the finest gentleman. Weak men have the tendency to be harsh and abusive to compensate for their inadequacies and insecurities.

The truest leader is the finest gentleman. Gentlemanliness is the prime characteristic of a real father and a leader. King David said, “Thy gentleness has made me great.” Gentleness is a manifestation of real strength. Weak men and women have the tendency to be harsh, hostile, manipulative, and abusive to compensate for their inadequacies and insecurities.

The strength of a man or woman can be found in the gentleness in which he or she handles matters.

My late Father was a very wise man and a great leader. He was a Marine during World War II, wounded on a beach in the South Pacific, became an Army officer following the war, fought in the Korean War and retired in the late 70's. He was a man's man, not because of his bravery on the battlefield or his physical strength; he was great because of his ability to control himself both mentally and emotionally. When he spoke, people listened because what he said either required action or was an opportunity to gain wisdom. He would talk to me for long periods of time about things, always imparting wisdom. It would sometimes irritate me as a child because he would constantly reiterate certain principles that would later have an impact. He would tell me, 'John, cursing is the attempt of a feeble mind to express itself', in essence, people curse out of a limited vocabulary and angry disposition. I heard him cuss one time in my entire life, he was repairing the lawn mower in the garage and, out of frustration said 'SOB', not knowing I was around the corner. When he realized it, I could tell he was perplexed and I moved along as if I didn't hear anything. This was a simple example but it's always stuck with me, although I did not abide by it.

I have had many failures throughout my life. I have allowed anger to play a large role in my life, which has had adverse effects on my personal life, my spouse, my children, career and all other sorts of relationships. Always blaming someone else for my anger or justifying it based on some ignorant circumstance. I've had a measure of personal success despite anger, however, childish behavior should never be tolerated in any adult's life. Over the past years, I've always self-reflected, usually leading to self-condemnation, but that's never healthy. Self-evaluating your own behavior is necessary for correction. Neglecting self-evaluation is rooted in laziness, selfishness and pride; don't allow another day to pass without beginning your healing process and protecting others from your wrath. Think before you speak; NEVER address an issue while you're angry, walk away and cool off; NEVER yell at your children or be abusive. Although they irritate you, anger will cause far worse damage in the long run.

If you desire to shed the weak man and become a respected leader, try this:

1.) Pray, repent to God and ask for His guidance

2.) Humble yourself and repent to those who've been the recipient of your anger (spouse, kids, siblings, parents, friends, co-workers, etc.)

3.) Self-evaluate, learn from your mistakes and educate yourself. (remember the root causes: selfishness and pride)

4.) Always, be slow to speak and quick to listen.

5.) When you screw up, start back at step 1, repeat, repeat, repeat...

 Selah (Pause, think on this)